[ntp:questions] Second Dates

pingtion at yeah.net pingtion at yeah.net
Tue Feb 19 13:21:59 UTC 2008

In an ideal world, you’d walk out of every first date with a clear
‘yes’ or ‘no’ etched in your mind for a second date with the person in
question. Unfortunately, in reality you often come out confused, not
knowing if the guy/gal is really worthy of a second date. As a result
you often say no in haste and repent not taking the chance later. At
times the opposite happens and you may really regret giving someone a
second chance. We came up with some questions you could ask yourself
clear the confusion and help you make the right decision.

How did you react when you first saw your date?

If the first thought that crossed your mind was that you have dated
better, do not let that stop you from going on a second date. Your
date may have intellectual qualities or a sense of humor which may
more than make up for the lack of physical attributes. Do put up
points in their favor if you felt that they took time and made an
effort to look good. However, if their grunge look made you wonder if
they even knew they’d come for a date, don’t think twice before saying

How much eye contact did you make?

Eye contact fosters trust and understanding and hence is a pointer to
the quality of future interaction you may have with someone. Making a
fair amount of eye contact, indicates positive interaction, and should
be taken as green light for a second date. If your date was looking
around quite a bit and you don’t even remember the color of their
eyes, give it up before you regret wasting more time.

How did the conversation flow?

It will be a rare first date where you have a lot to say to each other
and conversation flows from start to finish. Even if conversation was
bumpy, at times flowing and at times sprinkled with


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